The Ones That Don't Are Not Real Women
You've often heard before people talk about being a man. They're not talking about sex or gender when they use this phrase, but rather, it's an obligation to society and to family that you have to fulfil to validate your masculinity. You have to take care of yourself without being a burden on others. In most cases you also have to pick up the slack of others and bring weaker people under your wing. You have to step up.
I actually think this is a perfectly valid social construct, not something we should seek to reduce. We should be under pressure to be the best that we can be for our families and our communities.
But I think the time has some for us to also think about women in this way.
I have a weird perspective because I used to have one set of stances and decided to change them. But I didn't lose the understanding of why people feel the opposite way. I just now think that a lot of my old worldviews were misguided. And a lot of times my current stances aren't ones that I would have opted into without being pushed.
Sexism is a good example of this. The stance that I wanted was egalitarian with women being raised to the same station as men and both groups operating in harmony.
It began like this...
I was a teenager in the early 2000s. I was completely in love with a girl back then and we were pretty close. I had a great deal of respect for her and every thing she had to say I considered to be highly intelligent and worth seriously considering. She was my first exposure to feminism. And keep in mind, this was during a time when it was not exactly mainstream to be a feminist. So I learned about the struggles of women from the feminist lens via her. Often times she would get quite frustrated with me for something I would say and having to teach me how problematic it was from her view. And because I listened to her and took her so seriously, it set me up to be a relatively feminist man as I grew older. I wasn't just nodding my head to her to make her happy. I genuinely had faith in her and everything she had to say, I empathized with. But I sometimes felt like she didn't properly appreciate how willing to be her student on this subject that I was. There was a part of her that was just angry at me for being a man and there was nothing I could do about it.
This was a long time ago. I'm not bitter about these experiences at all. I only describe this to illustrate the trajectory I went forward with in regard to feminism as I became a man and to transition into how I feel now (which I should clarify has nothing to do with this person who I still hold in very high esteem).
I no longer believe that the dream is possible. Whether we like it or not, life is a fight to be the one on top. And basically all the egalitarianism has accomplished is having a huge rift between the sexes and more children that are not in healthy families where their parents are partners.
You can't even really imagine someone that doesn't know what feminism is and learning about it from their girlfriend today. It permeates our culture now. And it's increasingly clear that egalitarianism isn't the goal. Even for people that really want that, they're forced to face the reality that it's not possible.
To the extent that women are going to fight for their own supremacy at the expense of men and families and children, which they are, then I think it's unfortunate that because of that the egalitarian dream has to be abandoned.
Women must be made to submit, to fulfull their obligations to family and society, or rather the ones that don't are not real women; they're enemies to crush beneath our boots.